Divorce is becoming normal these days. A lot of couples decide to call it quits after a few years of beign together.
One of the things that make divorce difficult is for the children. A lot of times, children are the most affected in this particular scenario. They’d typically end up switching weekends between parents, or worse, parents end up battling over the custody of children. This can be a long and painful scenario considering the number of children who lived with divorced parents worldwide. What exactly are the things that you can expect from this particular scenario?
Age does matter
The effect of divorce may vary depending on the age of your children. For instance, children around nine years old tend to blame themselves for the divorce. It is also a common scenario wherein the children dream that their parents are getting back together.
When you are dealing with adolescents, it tends to be a bit different than preschool to school age children. It is a common scenario wherein the teenagers feel that they have been betrayed by their parents. They’d typically become more rebellious or even more independent.
Teenage boys and girls tend to act differently depending on these scenarios. Teenage boys tend to be more rebellious, while the girls tend to be more withdrawn during the divorce.
Parents forgot about their children
Divorce can be quite a stressful scenario. In fact, it isn’t the divorce per se that makes it difficult. It is the legal battle plus the number of adjustments that parents have to go through that makes divorce quite complicated. Parents in these scenarios forget about their children, thus making them more difficult to manage.
Relationships become more complicated
Relationship between children and parents tend to get more complicated once the parents decided to have a divorce. It is a common scenario wherein the child tends to have a negative relationship with one of the parents. He or she may already be taking sides and putting the blame on one of the parents.
During visits, it is a common scenario wherein the child tends to not enjoy the presence of the parent especially when the parent argues with the ex-spouse.
How do you prevent complications?
In order to prevent these complications, it is important that both parents understand the effects of divorce to their children. It is also important that they get the help of experts if they feel that they don’t understand how to handle the situation. Experts can help guide and even simplify the approach that should be taken by both parents.
It is also important that the parents are aware of their responsibilities to the children. If the parent starts to forget about funding the health, education, and other basic needs of the child, that’s when the problem can worsen especially between the parent and the child.
Divorce shouldn’t always be a negative thing. It is possible that both parents can no longer live with each other, and therefore should go on separate ways. Children may be affected if the parents failed to address the proper steps for these scenarios.
- Bill Hunt discusses divorce over the age of 50 on Fox 8 November 1, 2016 mmadmin
- Parenting Coordination: Some thoughts on why it works March 9, 2015 William Hunt