Divorce is a highly emotional and painful thing. It is very rare for it to be agreeable as hoped for and is truly never sweet. One has to experience multiple losses at the same time including the pain of ending a relationship, losing intimacy, comfort, security and finances to name a few. It is all about separating your emotions from the logic and making sure that you think about all the important past, present and future aspects of it. Even though, there is nothing stress-free and peaceful about going through a divorce, there are still some ways which can help both the spouses to make the situation a little better and less stressful for them. Let us look at this process of enduring divorce stepwise.
Reflect upon the Past
The most important thing is to reflect upon your past and validate everything which has lead you and your spouse to this step. You must be very clear about the reasons due to which you are deciding to divorce each other and carefully consider each and every one of them. The one thing which no one wants is to regret something after taking any action and same goes for divorce. It is extremely painful and you might not be thinking straight but you can always reach out for help from lawyers, marriage counsellors, and psychologists who can help you in validating your past and helping you to make sure that the decision of divorce which you are going to take will not be regretted by you in the upcoming days of your life.
Think about working on yourself
Let’s face it divorce is not a one man’s issue. Both the spouses have some kind of part or hand in it. No matter how bad and a total misfit your spouse was for you, you should also take a moment to validate yourself and see what wrong was done by you. This is a very good point to re-evaluate yourself and improve yourself so you don’t have to face this horrible situation in the future ever again.
Make decisions for the upcoming life
Bear in mind the fact that no matter how much painful it is, divorce is just a part of life after all, and you have to move on from this. It may seem to you that your life has ended and in some cases, you might even be so depressed that you would simply never want to go out and face the world again or live a normal life but you have to understand the fact that life indeed does go on. Take the help of therapists, psychologists or even friends and family who are near and dear to you to regain trust in yourself and build up your self-confidence again.
Work on getting yourself together and engaging yourself in the everyday life. Decide how you can get your life back together, work on your financial issues and make plans for continuing a happier life. You have to work on yourself both physically and mentally. Take care of your health; join a gym or a fitness club to stay healthy. Engage yourself in work or hobbies to take the stress of your mind and feel better again. Plan to spend time with your friends and loved ones or even take a vacation to soothe your mind and refresh your soul.
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